Why Blog? A Better View Realized.

Making sense of it all.

Why Blog? Writing was never my strong skill and only now a few decades into my life finding it a powerful way of communication, just as it is starting to lose its significance on the World Wide Web. What am I saying? Writing is losing its significance? Yes, it is my realization that writing is now getting diluted with the advance of publishing tools and software designed to spin written contents so what writing can be taken as a genuine content and what is not so genuine?  This question requires time and skilled reading or well developed intuitive “BS Detector” to determine on the fly, hence my favor of vlogs where a person has the opportunity to make up where his/her writing skill may lack of the desired expression.

Yet, today I had a strong realization about the higher value of blogging when I delivered a Hi9 coach session with a client. This Hi9 tool is designed to help live a personal energy conscious life and manage personal energy state using live coach session when needed. The situation I was in just as I woke up, was an unusual one considering the quantified energy pattern that showed up on my iPhone from a client. Nonetheless I went for it anyways and by the time we finished the micro coach session, the realization on my end was that blogging can be not only therapeutic but also a powerful self-expression to carry our best thinking, capture our wisdom so others can benefit from it. Our blogs have it be an inspiration, an assurance or some positive experience that our writing produce for another human being, worth the time and effort invested writing a blog. My client was advised to write down new view of her situation as it arise in within the next 48 hours or so and if she likes it, publish it so other people around the world facing similar circumstance can find it, make a good use of it. Perhaps she can connect with someone who found a better point of view on this classic yet troublesome problem and her blog is simply serving them as a connecting point.

In my case I supplement my blog with a vlog (Blog + video=vlog) to deliver the sincere factor. Pointing the camera to myself does not bother me as it used to when I was a young man since I have practically recorded my children’s life as an inspired parent and in the process I learned to give them the opportunity to see their parents also later in life from their adult perspective not only relying on the fading memory of a child. The voice alone not always enough, so I make the point to have my face in my vlogs. Recently on the Quantified Self forum I posted a vlog with images and my voice without my face and the feedback I received was a total disaster. One person wrote a very eloquent expression why he thought I was insincere, mistaking my voice recorded under alpha brainwave states. (It is the state between awake and sleep-meditative state like). Since this person withdrew his statement when I posted a vlog in reply and he apologized once he understood the circumstance of the first vlog but the mistake was mine also. Therefore I make a point to supplement my blogs with vlogs as often as I can for the reasons I described here.

Summary: Blogging can be very powerful opportunity to distill our best thinking and with that create a connection point with others, facing similar situations and either inspire them or give them the opportunity to inspire us to see better view of the given situation on hand. For those who are fortunate to have tools like iPhone to make vlogs on the fly, I encourage them to do so to further serve their writing’s sincere value and help the reader distinguish between “quantity based-commercialized” blog and a sincere blog that may only have a single view but that translates into a HUMAN connection that worth the time and effort invested in creating the blog.

Life Coach Industry and Parenthood

Life Coach Industry & Parenthood

A new and fascinating filed that seems to embrace all the knowledge  under the SELF-IMPROVEMENT category and more. A few days of in-depth investigation of this filed revealed to me enough data that I am now hocked to investigate further.

My plan is to interview as many professional Life Coaches as possible and find out how many of them I can establish a working relationship with on mutually beneficial grounds.

This blog however is not to blow my commercial horn but to share a personal realization after about 30-35 hours investigation of the Life Coach industry:

Being a FULL TIME home educating parent does qualify that adult to be a world class LIFE COACH!

What do you think? What is your first reaction to this statement of realization?

Using a word “qualify” in terms of competency of course. But even that topic of qualification contains this category and possibly represents both ends of the spectrum of possibilities of how one can be a life coach. On end the self-declared life coach can be a fake, on the other hand this person can be among the strongest representatives who did not let school get in his/her way of self-directed studies and the rest is history: veni, vidi,vici.

The realization was probably the result of my mapping out one prominent Life Coach quality assurance list:

  • TRUST & INTEGRITY
  • Gift of Coaching
  • Full TIME & ATTENTION Commitment
  • No Criticism
  • Control Own Desire
  • Keen Listening
  • Humble in Communication
  • Firm about TRUTH
  • Expert Communicator

Any and all home educating parents could be proud in their parental responsibilities if these guidelines are met with their children. My experience being on my second tour of duty as a Home Educating Father raised two children and now doing all over again, that most parents including me fall short of this list. Yet, when we raise a child to be all that young person can be, we did deliver an awesome service. Long term pro-bone contract, one could view it and what a responsibility since this client had no choice but go along with service rendered as is.

First conclusion: All parents would benefit reviewing the Life Coach guidelines and ponder how to apply some or perhaps all the pointers in their parental responsibilities towards their children.  To me this surely put my dedicated work into an improved perspective and strongly considering to make “permanent” connections in my thoughts, words and actions with parental responsibilities and life coaching principles.

After all, what is being a parent if not being my child’s first life coach?

Life Coach Using Critical Thinking

Today I had the opportunity to engage in a discussion an accomplished Life Coach in a discussion who appears to be on top of his game as a Life Coach.

Prior to our meeting I spent four days to learn about the Life Coach industry from his web site thus his point of view.

I was impressed with the findings and today entered in our second round of exploratory discussion via Skype video conferencing with great anticipation. This short blog entry is to share my disappointment on how the communication broke down from the start and while I kept the clock running by exercising a great deal of patience to keep the conversation balanced, this older gentleman was obviously not familiar with different thinking modalities and  pressing heavily for the benefit of critical thinking to gain an upper hand in the conversation while I kept putting us back on parallel thinking by defusing his attacks without attacking back and pointing out different vantage points so he can get out of the deepening hole he was digging himself, in the land of contradictions. My guess is that he may have been suffering from diabetes or otherwise some biological issues that effected his mental status since he was very different from the first consultations we had prior to this one. He soon got up from his chair and for rest of the conference he did not give the courtesy to sit back so I only say his worn empty chair. Not very courteous but I did not voice my concern over cutting out much needed data from an exploratory conversation. (body language)

Since I am studying different thinking modalities and advancing my thinking skills, it is increasingly more obvious to see when communication cycles get stacked in one track and progress is slowed unnecessarily.

What can we do in cases like this? The answer is of course highly situation dependent and in this case all I could do was to follow up with a polite but clear and firm letter to keep focused on our original goal of accomplishment and I declared my intention to keep the communication channel open; however I invest no more time trying to prove him anything. He reached his own limitations to further our agenda then it is acknowledged by me and leave it at that. The moral of this blog is this:

I make no personal judgment of this person and if/when he comes around to continue the communication, I will be here to do so. However finding people who can carry on advance communication on a mutually interesting topic carries a much better ROI than trying to teach an old dog new tricks.  Have you had a win in similar situation when a wise and accomplished person just doesn’t get it? If so, have you successfully overcome the communication barriers? If so, care to share your experience?

First Day of the Rest of My Life.

No Mid Life Crisis

This is not the first time when I felt that everything in my life funneled up to this point with a common unifying purpose to create something significant.  The difference this time is in the Gray Hat, that is to say in common terms: experience or wisdom.

Today is the first day of my professional life coach career that utilizes a system I created with the help of several people utilizing a wide variety of skill set.  The result of our work is a unique but simple tool called “Hi9” application or “app” available both via the Web and iPhone, iPad. Other devices will follow.

The first program in which I am applying this tool in the public arena is the No Midlife Crisis motto, targeting people age 40 and up. In setting up my various online profiles, I wrote this introduction:

Just a man who decided to live life without a mid-life point of view.

As far as I am concerned, it is a matter of decision to live my life to the fullest and by that I mean that I am getting better each day. A midpoint in life would suggest that from that point on everything is going downhill. Not for me it won’t. Up and downs are natural fluctuations but a steady decline is unacceptable. That is a state of mind and the term “midlife crisis” being as prevalent as it may in our society, I set out to create a social network of people who like the idea of living life to its full potential. To me it means that I continue my Spiritual, Emotional, Mental and Physical development to my last day of this life time. So here I am ready to meet up with others who are motivated to better themselves regardless of the modalities of the activities.  If you are interested to know more how I progress on my journey, you can chose to read (blog) view my YouTube channel or interact (Facebook) with me. When you are ready to adept the view of “No Midlife Crisis “ then you may want to explore SY.WWW where a cool tool called Hi9 is available to use free of charge to start on this journey or adept it to your existing lifestyle.

Good enough for now, it says the essence of my DECISION.

The title Master Coach is substantiated not by academia but sweat equity invested over the years to learn about life. A unique history behind me, I am ready to apply everything that I know to help others.

Master Coach Z